Situation................?

i am 22 yrs old male..w/ 2 kids...a 2 yr old boy...n a 10 week old girl....i keep gettin hammered by my mom...which makes her a hypocrite...sayin that we r n over our heads....1st of all..ive been independent since i was 17 years old....2nd...i make pretty decent money at my construction job....enough money where we arent low on money and my wife can stay home....what can i do or say 2 get her off my back?...its really startin 2 piss me off n i want my kids 2 have a good relationship w/ their gma